Scripture Reading: Jeremiah 49:7-50:10 / 2 Timothy 2:1-26 / Proverbs 25:21-26:2
I guess if anyone knew about wives…it was Solomon. He had a great deal of experience as he had 700 wives and 300 concubines! Solomon was the wisest person ever but I tend to question his judgment because he didn’t “get it” after the first few wives. But there were a few things he learned like, “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.” (Proverbs 25:24)
After I read this scripture, I debated about commenting on it but I’m going for it anyway…going where no man has gone before! (Disclaimer: I am not responsible for the content of this verse and my wife isn’t quarrelsome…I’m talking about those other wives, not you dear!)
The Israelite homes were built with flat roofs. The roofs were accessible for the family to find a place of safety during enemy attacks or a place to be alone and find solitude. The roof was not an ideal place because it was not protected from nature’s elements. The roof was not a place to be when there were blistering winds, a scorching sun or pelting rain. But despite the elements, it was a desired place for an overwhelmed, distraught or a “pushed to his limits” husband.
A quarrelsome wife would make the roof decision an easy one for her husband. It would be better for him to not only visit, but also move to the roof…even a small corner of it! Facing the roof’s challenges was far more desirable than living with a scolding, brawling and contentious wife. A wife who found fault in everything he said, did or did not do. Her scorching disposition, blistering words and pelting accusations were more severe than even the worst of nature’s elements!
Husbands are not free from criticism but God has established a process of correction that does NOT include a quarrelsome wife. God said it was not good for man to be alone, so He created Eve to be a helpmeet to Adam. She was to complement and complete his life. Woman was created to be man’s most satisfying delight, not the cruelest thorn in his side.
A wife has a great deal of power and influence. She can either be her husband’s greatest encouragement or biggest detriment. Paul speaks of submissiveness as a great gift that a wife brings to the marriage. She has an opportunity to build her husband up and walk close to his side. Her opinions and wisdom are not dismissed but accepted and valued as she displays a Christ like heart and disposition.
Woman was created to promote and give life, not destroy it. God places every wife in a powerful position to either build up or tear down. Remember, it is not good for man to be alone…but a desired place when he has a contentious wife. As for me, I have no desire to live on my roof… why would I? My wife makes it a joy to be the “King of my Castle” because… she is the queen of my heart!
Pastor James Clark has pastored Calvary Assembly since 1985. He is blessed with his wife Yvonne, six children, two son-in-laws, a beautiful granddaughter and hopefully many more grandchildren to follow!