Scripture Reading: Ezekiel 45:1-46:24 / 1 Peter 3:1-22 / Proverbs 28:18-28
Here in the first seven verses of 1 Peter 3, we find six verses of instructions for wives and one verse of instructions for husbands. It sounds like women have a lot to learn but some women explain the instruction discrepancy this way, “If you went to a pet store to buy a pet turkey, you would pick up a cage, food, water bowl and a turkey manual where you would find lengthy instructions on how to care for your turkey. On the other hand, the turkey wouldn’t need a book telling him how to live with you because the smarter one gets the instructions…touché.
Some say women are given more instructions because men are more difficult and challenging! There may be only one verse of instructions for husbands but it is an all-important one. “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. (1 Peter 3:7)
One of the greatest heart cries of a wife is to be heard and understood. Women are biologically unique and husbands do not have a clue to the hormonal changes they experience. Wives struggle with progesterone and the ensuing effects of tension, depression, pessimism, discomfort and irritability.
During these times, it is difficult for husbands to understand and they struggle to heed Peter’s instruction for consideration. Often times, a husband is oblivious to his wife’s voice and emotions. This will eventually lead to the wife’s frustration, “You don't
understand me!” Wives need emotional support, conversation, encouragement, time, her husband’s attention…there are too many lonely wives.
God calls husbands to respect and honor their wives as the weaker vessel. Physically and emotionally, the wife is a delicate creature. They need their husband to care and protect them. Women have a greater appreciation for stability, security and enduring human relationships. Security of a husband is vital for wives.
A husband gets his self-worth from his job; a wife gets her self-worth from her husband! Statistics reveal that during their late 30’s and early 40’s, a wife is the most dissatisfied and the husband is the most satisfied. The husband is at the height of job advancement and the wife suffers from his lack of presence. Husbands are the key to their wives self-esteem and self-worth.
It can’t go without saying that a wife needs the deep, unselfish and sacrificial love of her husband. As Christ loved the church, so men are to love their wives. The greatest thing a husband can give his wife is understanding, honor and love. Wives respond with joy, love and submission but God also responds by answering the husband’s prayers. Men, the next time your prayer goes unanswered, don’t check your faith, check your relationship with your wife…God wants to get your attention!
Pastor James Clark has pastored Calvary Assembly since 1985. He is blessed with his wife Yvonne, six children, two son-in-laws, a beautiful granddaughter and hopefully many more grandchildren to follow!